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Notthatintoit/ 20/ f
DSFI Tempest your patient but not so gentle master
DSFI Tempest
Dominant-leaning Switch · Sadistic-leaning Switch · Body-leaning Switch · Instinct-leaning Switch
In their wordsQuick intro on where I'm at: the dynamic side of things is new territory for me, though I wouldn't call myself a beginner overall. Plenty of scenes under my belt, just more casual and self-directed than structured. Communication-wise, I lean on colors and safewords and I'll actually use them, so I need that taken seriously. What I'm into, roughly in order: pain is the big one — full-on masochist here — then bondage, with humiliation/degradation rounding out the top three. That said, praise hits just as hard for me, so both ends of that spectrum are welcome. CNC is something I genuinely love when we've mapped out the boundaries beforehand, and TPE is very much my thing. Side note that felt worth including: I'm bi. Off the table entirely: blood, scat, knives, needles. Fire away if there's anything you're curious about.
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Halcyon/ 33/ m
DSPR Architect A submissive for long-form protocol
DSPR Architect
Dominant · Sadistic · Mind-leaning · Ritual-leaning
In their wordsState the terms. Keep them. That is the whole method. A scene has a shape before it starts. You know it. I know it. The pleasure is in how exactly it gets carried out, not in whether it will happen. I want duration. Months, not a weekend. Standing orders. Reports. Someone who finds repetition steadying, not tedious. Write what you have done. Not what you have read. Specifics get an answer. Nothing else does.
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saltwater/ 27/ f
sMFR Vessel One patient person to build with
sMFR Vessel
submissive · Masochistic · Body-leaning · Ritual-leaning
In their wordsThe tide doesn't rush and I don't either. I take a while to open, and once I have, I stay. What I want isn't intensity, it's weight — the same ritual, worn smooth by repeat, until it doesn't need words anymore. One evening a week that means something, over one that's just loud. Aftercare isn't a nice-to-have for me, it's the tide coming back in. I say that early so we don't waste each other's time finding it out later. If you like building slowly with one person, tell me how you look after someone once the scene is over. That's the part I actually want to know.
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Oarlock/ 29/ nb
DSFI Tempest Someone who wants weather, not a script
DSFI Tempest
Dominant · Sadistic-leaning Switch · Body-leaning · Instinct-leaning
In their wordsNo plan. Read the room instead. Follow what's actually happening, not what was supposed to happen. Shape shows up after, never before. I called this a preference, not a virtue, and I'll say it again. If you need the order of events set in advance, we will grind against each other. Fair warning, not a challenge. Sensation reading sits dead on the line. That's accurate — some nights I give, some I take, depending on the room. Limits and safewords get settled before anything starts. Every time. No exceptions, no renegotiating mid-scene. Bring your list. I'll bring mine.
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thornfield/ 41/ f
sMPR Acolyte A steady dominant, service first
sMPR Acolyte
submissive · Masochistic · Mind-leaning · Ritual-leaning
In their wordsService is the substance of what I want, not an approach to pain. I derive genuine satisfaction from being useful within a structure I did not have to invent myself: standing duties, small obligations that persist between our meetings, the sense that my attention is properly employed. Most of what draws me happens in the mind rather than on the skin. I prefer low intensity held with high consistency, and I have been in this community long enough to have no patience left for being anyone's first experiment — though I will happily be patient with someone thoughtful. Correspondence is welcome, and the longer the better. I would rather know, in writing, what you would actually want kept, and how you prefer to be told when something has stopped working, than discover either by accident.
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Ninefold/ 38/ m
DMFR Anvil A switch who likes trading the reins
DMFR Anvil
Dominant-leaning Switch · Masochistic · Body-leaning · Ritual-leaning
In their wordsSo my reading landed me in the Switch band on Power, which, fine, checks out. I run most nights, I'm actually decent at it, but the ones I still think about later are the ones where we traded halfway through and nobody made it into a whole conversation about whose nerve broke first. I'm a ritual guy. Same three questions before we start, clear beginning, clear ending, none of the guessing. On the receiving end more often than you'd think for someone who leads as much as I do. If you also live somewhere in the middle of that axis and you're done being told to just pick a lane already, we'll probably get along fine. Tell me what happens on your end when the dynamic flips and neither of you saw it coming.
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quietmachine/ 31/ gf
sSPI Familiar A dominant who thinks out loud
sSPI Familiar
submissive · Sadistic · Mind-leaning Switch · Instinct-leaning
In their wordsTarget state: taken apart in conversation. Method: told what happens an hour before it does, made to answer questions I'd otherwise avoid. Physical intensity: present, not primary. Secondary system, running underneath. Output role skews submissive. Input role, more often than that sentence implies, is holding the whip. Hence the reading. No contradiction there once you look at both. Preferred mode: unstructured, improvised, mostly resolved in the head rather than on the body. If you like being asked why, and you don't flinch at someone who negotiates every clause before signing off on anything, this compiles. Write.
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